Category Archives: Inspiration

The Key to Connection is You

Let’s face the facts

The holiday season is just around the corner.  As always, the conversations around the family dinner table are bound to get uncomfortable.  You need a plan….fast!

Adulting does not have to be hard

Admittedly, I find “adulting” to be a ridiculous word. What the hell does it even mean?  If what one intends is to suggest that being a grown-up isn’t all that fun, I suppose there is some truth to that…but I also have found it is not all that “tough” if one simply makes a conscious decision to actually be an adult. 

I expected to get blown up on this one

Earlier this week, I was inspired to make a statement on social media.  You know the type. A somewhat windy, wordy prose about a singular view of some topic bound to attract the nastiest of responses from those trolls who seem to be abundantly living today in every corner of the internet. But…I wasn’t.

The responses were encouraging

In only 24 hours, I received 50 “likes”, 19 “loves”, 20+ comments, 1 share, and ZERO PEOPLE ARGUING AGAINST MY POINT.  In a word, I was stunned.

 

Here is what I posted

Friends – We don’t all agree on everything. In fact, we share unique opinions on lots of issues. I’m making this request in an effort to do MY PART of being more of the change in the world I want to see:

Stop bashing everybody. Nobody is white/black, gay/straight, American/immigrant, Astros/Dodgers, Christian/atheist/Muslim/Jewish/Buddhist/etc… enough anymore.

Just stop bashing each other. If someone shares their opinion, it is that- their opinion. They are entitled to it the same way you and I are entitled to ours. If you feel compelled, respectfully offer another point of view, and become part of the dialogue.

I am a Christian who loves people of many faiths, orientations, political affiliations, nationalities, races and sports loyalties. None of those people from which I am “different” are a threat to me. In fact, I often learn much from being their friend and listening. I appreciate it when they listen to my perspective, and honor when it doesn’t persuade them to change their stance.

In what appears to be a race to the “lowest common denominator” of mankind, stand tall – be respectful of others – be positive, and most of all….stop being such a jerk to others. Love people. And, yes….I pray for all of us.

You never know the impression you are making on others.

Connection matters

You spend more of your waking hours AT WORK rather than your loved ones.

Your family is yours.  Even if your family is responsible for putting the “fun” in “dysfunctional”!

Not everyone with whom you are forced to interact believes what you believe—and that is okay!

Ask any successful person how they achieved success and most will share with you their story. Learn to emulate  success without copying.

To find success in any aspect of your life…start by meeting others where they are by:

Being vulnerable, yet empathetic;

Listening more;

Talking less;

Demonstrating your character through your actions.

Allowing others to  gravitate toward you, open up, and contribute with their best.

Just jump in!

You can do this. You can do anything!  Even survive that one awkward conversation around the holiday turkey this season. In fact, you just might learn something….even if only to validate what you already believed. 

How do you constantly strive to connect with others and model the kind of world you wish we lived in? Share your thoughts below!

It Takes Audacity to Overcome Self Sabotage – Coach Jennie Explains (Ep 44)

Do you need a coach or a cathartic shove from an Audacity Coach? Coach Jennie explains the difference and helps you overcome self-sabotage in this episode of the podcast.

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Coach Jennie and I met a few years back in an online community she was co-facilitating called “Hungry Entrepreneurs”.  In fact, I participated as one of the “Hungries” by contributing a chapter to a community-produced eBook cleverly entitled “EBooks Suck, But They Don’t Have To…”.  (Want a FREE COPY of the eBook? Just CLICK HERE and we’ll get it headed your way ASAP.)

Jennie has a new book slated for release on September 1, 2016, and we have learned pre-orders will begin in August.  All the details for that project can be found at HildaTheBook.com [Go there now and sign up to be first to get the scoop when it’s available and you’ll get a copy of the book’s preface straight away…trust me, it’s hilarious!]

Too often, entrepreneurial people can feel isolated.  That is exactly who Coach Jennie is looking too help.  She ONLY works with people who want a push, or as she calls it a “cathartic shove” and a shot of audacity to inspire them into action.

bookcoverIn this episode, we talk about suffering with self-sabotage; how to pick the clients you WANT TO WORK WITH and say no to the rest; how Jennie leverages a podcast with a unique format to attract her key clients; and how to make yourself massively available to people who want your expertise….who would never pay for it.

After you finish this episode, get deeper inside Jennie’s brain at:

Roller Derby For the Soul Podcast (over 100 episodes!)
The Audacity LAB (League of Audacious Badasses) Facebook Group

Technology discussed during the episode: www.Zoom.Us, www.huzza.io, www.blab.im

 

Episode 43 – When Your Side Hustle Is Really Just a Hobby

As a Success Charger, admittedly, you’re different.  You see opportunity where others only see roadblocks, but let’s be honest about this one.

What is wrong with simply having a “hobby”.  Why does EVERYBODY seem to think they have to be “hustlin” or “grindin”.  When really, so many of those same people, are just…well….”Strugglin”.


Dan Pink’s book, Free Agent Nation, rocked my world when I read it nearly 10 years ago.  In the text, he explains how the world is basically shifting from what we think of as a traditional employment world, to a “gig economy” world (I’m pretty sure “gig economy” is a newer term, but you get it, right?)

There’s only one problem.  Too many of the very companies who would prefer to pay for talent ONLY when they REALLY NEED IT, have build vast systems to support a “traditional business model” and they often find themselves ill-equipped to actually execute on a plan that the “gigsters” would LOVE…. Being able to work on projects as a free-agent on an “as-needed” basis with enough frequency to be able to effectively blend work with the lifestyle they prefer.

I think we’re on our way to seeing Pink’s reality, it’s just taking longer than many people would like.  Leaving many with a strong DESIRE to be a free agent stuck in a purgatory between what they really want and the harsh realities of the ever-expanding cost of living.  (Television used to only cost the price of the TV itself, you know….and it wasn’t that long ago.  Now….$200+ month is not uncommon just for the “content”.)

So this week, we beg the question, “Do you REALLY have a side hustle, or is that stuff you work on after work just a “hobby”….and by the way, there is NOTHING wrong with having a good ol’ fashioned hobby.

Sound off in the comment section below or  drop us a quick note at podcast@ideacharger.com and let us know your take.

Does your side hustle make money?  Do you actually do anything for fun anymore, or are you  trying to “monetize” EVERYTHING you do?  Or, are you a hipster who still goes to coffee shops for the **gasp** actual coffee?

Your Business Needs A Gut Check – Lori Harrison – Plexus Diamond Ambassador

Lori Harrison will gladly tell you she had no idea in the world she was building a business when she began sharing her story on Facebook to a bunch of her friends.  Today, she and her husband Jeddie Harrison are at the top of their game in a vibrant and successful business build on…well…southern charm and doing what seemed right.

Jeddie & Lori Harrison
Jeddie & Lori Harrison

Multi level marketing companies often receive a bad rap.  And while certainly there are some sketchy offerings in the “MLM” space, there ARE in fact several companies that do quite well.  Mary Kay Cosmetics comes to mind as a shining example of proof (You forgot about Mary Kay being one of the original MLMs didn’t you?)

I’m not here to say MLM is right for you.  It may very well not be.  The story I wanted to bring you, though, is one about authenticity, following your heart, and proof that sticking to your guns can make it possible to build a business…even if you don’t realize that’s what you are doing. For the entrepreneurial at heart, this is a story about “the dream” others around you cannot see.  The lifestyle you know is possible while others run the rat race.

plexusIn recent years, there is a newer player on the scene in Plexus.  Frankly, I didn’t know much about who they were until some friends simply shared a “pink drink mix” dumped into a bottle of water while we were at their house.  While we didn’t “buy in” as reps, I have to admit, some of the product has found its way into our house, and we use the supplements, too.  But that isn’t what this story is about. 

When our friends here in Houston cornered me about someone I went to high school with in Oklahoma over two decades ago, I got more curious.  Turns out, it was Lori…so in true Success Charger fashion, we booked her for an interview, and are bringing it to you here today!

Want to CONNECT more?

Lori’s Facebook Page (You might have to message her to connect…she’s popular and maxed out the “friend” numbers!)

Watch the FULL UNCUT INTERVIEW as it unfolded.  It’s on our show’s YouTube channel under “Success Charger Podcast”. There’s some goofy tech issues and deeper conversation.  It includes about 30-40 minutes of bonus content!

Please leave thoughts, comments, suggestions and whatnot below in the comment section!  PLUG IN!

Why Everyone Should Become A Facilitator [Ep.38]

Even with many years of experience developing leaders, John Verdone (Manager, Global Facilitator Excellence at Development Dimensions International) was struggling to describe just exactly what he did for a living. That is, until one day, when he happened to catch a certain story unfolding on a PBS-like television show and it all clicked.

People with strong presentation skills are viewed as better leaders and perceived to possess many favorable attributes reaching far beyond the realm of presentations. – John Verdone

In this interview, John stops by the podcast visit with host Scott Cooksey and shares what a study he commissioned uncovered about what makes a great facilitator; when learning really begins for adults; and why everyone should incorporate facilitation skills to build deeper, more meaningful connections with co-workers, clients and in your life.


CLICK HERE to watch the YouTube video that generated the connection between John’s exploration into “what makes a great facilitator” and this podcast interview.



 

Photo of John Verdone peering out airplane window.
John Verdone
Cooksey peering out plane window.
Scott Cooksey

In the outtake of today’s episode, John and Scott compare recent photos they’d shared online.

Except for the fact that they both appear to prefer seats on the left side of the aircraft, any other resemblance is most certainly coincidental.

Share your questions, kudos, criticisms, challenges, guests you’d like to hear interviewed or whatever is on your mind in the comments section below or email the show at podcast@IdeaCharger.com!


Host Scott Cooksey works with organizations and top leaders to help them build lasting, profitable business relationships FASTER.

He has lead leadership workshops around the globe since 2009, and regularly speaks at conferences just like the last industry-specific one you attended!

Learn more about how Scott works with leaders and organizations like yours at www.IdeaCharger.com 

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Just a quick update to let you know that while I haven’t posted any new articles in a while, the IdeaCharger has been generating some new content, and you are going to love it!

Podcasting Microphone Coming in August 2015, I am excited to announce the launch of “Success Charger Podcast with Scott Cooksey”. As soon as we have the particulars worked out, I’ll be posting the details, but here’s a quick look at what you can expect:

  • Stories behind the tips shared inside “CONNECT: 77 Idea Chargers to Generate High Voltage Results TODAY!”  Don’t have a copy, order one HERE
  • Interviews offering deeper insights behind the stories and concepts YOU NEED TO KNOW
  • Concepts  to re-energize your business and generate deeper, profitable relationships with your clients and customer RIGHT NOW
  • Much, much more!

Production is already underway for our first episodes, so get ready to be energized with SUCCESS CHARGER: The Podcast!

How Millennials Are Hurting Themselves – Long Live Gen X!

[Typically, I have avoided writing about the various generations in the workplace, but after a couple of interactions this week, it was just too important to speak up. – Scott]

Nobody wants to tell them directly (likely for fear of hurting their feelings) so I am going to offer this piece of (albeit general and somewhat biased) advice:

Millennials: STOP SHOOTING YOURSELVES IN THE FOOT!

Let me be clear, as a leadership development professional, I believe that MOST people have inside them the ability to achieve great success.  When I work with groups, I often remind them, “The why and the what are the easy part, it is the how that requires effort.”

The WHY and the WHAT are the easy part, it is the HOW that requires effort.

– Scott Cooksey, IdeaCharger.com

If you’re looking for the “cheat code” for success, here it is: EFFORT.

Real Life Doesn’t Hand Out Juice Boxes

cooler-juice-boxesThe occasional corporate function aside, life doesn’t give out juice boxes and ribbons to everyone for showing up.  Nope.  You have to earn them.  Is it hard? YES.  Do you need to put in some time to “earn your dues”? YES.  Are Baby Boomers sometimes afraid to tell you this? YES…because you keep getting hired as their supervisor (for reasons I cannot explain.)  Your Gen X manager, however, will take that juice box away if you cannot do the job.  Here are some tips for millennials to help navigate the rough waters of reality.

  • Look people in the eye when you talk with them. Seriously!  It’s how people interact.  Have confidence (not arrogance) when you interact with co-workers, your boss, customers, each other.  It is amazing what happens when people connect on a human, emotion-engaged level.  Stop gazing at the floor, your phone, or off into space when people are speaking with you.  It’s disrespectful.
  • Social media cannot solve all of your problems. At risk of sounding repetitive, get your face OUT of your “smart phone”.  That last automated tweet your company sent out using “the best formula for generating results” is fake.  Everyone knows it.  Stop “catfishing” your boss, customers and yourself and quit whining about EVERYTHING.  If you are not helping achieve positive results, you are in the way. Choose to be part of the solution, not simply “tweet” about it. Some problems really are larger than a #hashtag.
  • No.  A neck tattoo is NEVER a good idea.  EVER.  I am not even going to explain this one.  Just DON’T.
  • Social causes are great.  They are NOT a replacement, however, for doing a good job.  We live in an unforgiving world full of people who don’t understand each other, need a hand up, and many who are willing to help out.  That said, companies exist to for one reason: To make money.  Volunteer on your own time without expecting to get paid for it (See Dictionary: “volunteer”) or becoming the next “celebrity volunteer” or reality show star.  Just do something good because you want to.
  • Wait your turn.  About Y2K (that’s likely late elementary or Jr High for many of you millennials), everyone told the generation ahead of you that the Baby Boomers were all going to retire and “hand over the reigns” to Gen X.  Then the bottom fell out of the stock market ( a couple of times) and terrorists destroyed the World Trade Center on 9/11.  Many of the Baby Boomers, as a result, are STILL WORKING because they simply do not have the investments/cash to retire.Millennials2Now, though, it seems the media is OBSESSED with Millennials.  You are the “next great thing“.  You are “digital natives”.  You are going to solve all of the world’s problems.   Well, I have news for you.  Every young generation has been told the same thing.  And as a proud member of Generation X who seems to have been forgotten about in the midst of all of these daily crises, I stand up and say to you: When we are ready, you’ll get your shot.  It’s time for us to do OUR life’s work.  We don’t expect a trophy we didn’t earn.  We just might have a little more of a chip on our shoulders than we’ve ever been given credit for having. For that, I will not apologize.So, for now, millennials: keep your chin up.  Work hard.  Your time will come.  We will teach you the what and the why but you have to figure out the how by yourself.  We did…

    OH, no…. Now I sound like a Baby Boomer……

     

 

When Being Average Means You Are On Top

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You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
-Jim Rohn, 1930-2009

Several years ago, following some significant, life-changing events, I found myself adrift.  I had lost my focus.  While I had the “know-how”, my energy for building a business had faded from a roaring fire to a smoldering pile of coals.  Something needed to change.

Filling the Gap

When I visit with clients about the difference between where they are and where they would like to be, I have often found the gap to be both deceptively narrow and dangerously deep.  In order to traverse the crevasse, one must first summon the courage to try. It helps if you have a support system around you.  Are the people with whom you spend the most time building you up, or pulling you down?

Five Steps to Re-Ignite Your Success

  1. Intentionally select to become active in meetings with like-minded people.  By choosing to surround yourself with people who share your values, ideas, passion, excitement and/or skill set, you will be practicing the idea that “iron sharpens iron”.
  2. Deliberately attend gatherings of people with views different from your own. Living in a bubble is dangerous.  Get close to your competitors and detractors to gain a peek into their playbook.  While ideologies may not match, knowledge beats “winging it” every time. In some cases, keeping an open mind will often lead to new solutions YOU can implement as well!
  3. Upgrade your circle of influence. Look around.  If you are not learning FROM the people you consider close, it might be time to upgrade your circle of influence.  Already upgraded and still not getting better? Shuffle the deck and try again.
  4. Form a mastermind group. Find people who can be part of your accountability structure (yes…you need that) and for whom YOU can offer fresh perspectives.  These are the people who are gathering to make their businesses better.  Turn off your filter. Give the best advice you know.  What you receive in return is priceless.
  5. Go on a date.  Yep.  Get a sitter and go out with your spouse or significant other.  Book an exclusive dinner with your child.  DO NOT TALK ABOUT WORK. Be present.  Listen. [For best results, repeat this step regularly.]

Desire Is Like A Campfire

Once a fire settles down from a roaring blaze to a bed of hot coals, a smart camper banks them up into a tight bundle before heading off to their tent.  In the morning, simply adding some dry tinder onto the coals re-ignites the flame to shake off the morning chill and warm up that first pot of coffee.

The five steps above are the tinder you need to re-ignite the fire that comforts your success.  If you are surrounded by the right people, average is all you need.


Scott Cooksey works with organizations seeking to improve team performance, forge unbreakable bonds with clients and generate sustainable, profitable results.  Learn more at www.IdeaCharger.com.