Even with many years of experience developing leaders, John Verdone (Manager, Global Facilitator Excellence at Development Dimensions International) was struggling to describe just exactly what he did for a living. That is, until one day, when he happened to catch a certain story unfolding on a PBS-like television show and it all clicked.
People with strong presentation skills are viewed as better leaders and perceived to possess many favorable attributes reaching far beyond the realm of presentations. – John Verdone
In this interview, John stops by the podcast visit with host Scott Cooksey and shares what a study he commissioned uncovered about what makes a great facilitator; when learning really begins for adults; and why everyone should incorporate facilitation skills to build deeper, more meaningful connections with co-workers, clients and in your life.
CLICK HEREto watch the YouTube video that generated the connection between John’s exploration into “what makes a great facilitator” and this podcast interview.
In the outtake of today’s episode, John and Scott compare recent photos they’d shared online.
Except for the fact that they both appear to prefer seats on the left side of the aircraft, any other resemblance is most certainly coincidental.
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HostScott Cookseyworks with organizations and top leaders to help them build lasting, profitable business relationships FASTER.
He has lead leadership workshops around the globe since 2009, and regularly speaks at conferences just like the last industry-specific one you attended!
Learn more about how Scott works with leaders and organizations like yours at www.IdeaCharger.com
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Building on the momentum of recent weeks, in Episode 24, host Scott Cooksey shares how 2016 is off and running with intention and purpose.
Sharing how he practices what he suggests on the show, Cooksey reveals his “ONE BIG GOAL” for this year, shares what he is doing differently to achieve it, and why making time for your family and loved ones is important NOW….while you are building the life and business you really want!
One important fact to remember is that “nobody is responsible for your success but you” and further more, it is not anyone else’s responsibility to make sure YOU get what YOU want.
The only question that remains is: What will you DO about it?
The simple questions and steps you need to take are all included in this podcast episode. Just remember that you don’t have to be perfect right away, but you MUST move the needle in the right direction.
Share YOUR “Big Goal” for 2016 in the show notes at www.IdeaCharger.com/Episode24 and if you haven’t listened to Episodes 21-23, and you’re at the point of wanting to (re)gain control of your own life and business, this would be a great time to give these lessons a listen.
If you have been in business for very long, then you most certainly have experienced the typical “next year, our goal is to do more!” Or, “this year, our goal will be $X million dollars in sales!” [A number seemingly pulled out of thin air, or worse…a number simply a percentage greater than last year’s total.] This is precisely the reason you should never set goals. Let me explain.
“More” is not a strategy!
There is no creativity in goal setting today. Too often, what often gets construed as strategic planning, is not much more than wishful thinking. In short, people are lazy.
insanity- Taking the same action over-and-over again, each time expecting a different result.
Unhappy with the fact that the company’s sales results were essentially flat for a number of years, a company president shared with me once that “he wanted more”. Isn’t that exactly what conventional wisdom says a company president should say? In fact, it is exactly what that same company president had said in each of the previous five or six years…each time with the same result- roughly the same amount of sales as the year(s) before. Are you surprised?
Activity Alleviates Anxiety
Filled with desire to achieve a new result, do you ever feel paralyzed & uncertain what to do? Research indicates that learning occurs in four stages (Read: Unconscious Competence- A Lesson From Sesame Street). To first learn a new skill, or achieve a new result, one must first take a new action to discover that you likely don’t know what you don’t know- and you need awareness to turn that newly discovered knowledge into action from which you can learn. Once you took that first step, did the outcome bring you closer to or farther from your desired result? Adjust. Try again. It certainly beats the analysis paralysis which prevents so many people from experiencing a change in the outcome of their efforts. Do something, even if it is wrong!
Where SHOULD You Focus?
To achieve big results, you must have a vision. To have a vision, you must allow yourself to detach from your past failures and engage with an image of what your new success looks or feels like. Go ahead. Get a vivid picture of success. What would be different if you achieved success? How would it look? Feel? Smell? What would people notice most about you?
Now, before you get overwhelmed with the natural feelings of “but I don’t know how to get there”, simply bask in that vision for a few minutes. Hey, take an hour!
Welcome back! Feels good, doesn’t it? Now, write down a list of new actions (short term) that would lead you closer to that vision becoming your reality. Want a new job? Apply for a new one every day for a month. Want to lose those extra pounds you gained over the holidays…four years ago? Decide to go for a walk for 30 minutes every day.
Recent, widely-quoted research seems to suggest that mastery of a skill occurs once you have exercised that skill for 10,000 hours. Becoming an “expert” is a lofty goal. [For those counting at home that is spending 12 hours a day, every day, for 27 months; or by spending 30 minutes a day for nearly 55 years-if you have that kind of time.] No matter your level of commitment each day, proficiency in any skill only comes from experience. There are no shortcuts!
Focus on building new behaviors. Experiment with new behaviors and identify the correlation with your vision. As you take more and more deliberate action in the correct direction, that vision will begin to come into focus. Celebrate the small victories. Track your progress toward the greater desired result. Just don’t gauge how well you are doing with a pass/fail mentality. Focus on moving yourself in the right direction. The big, satisfying goal will just seem to “happen”.
ACTION: Share a big goal publicly with others as a motivator to keep yourself accountable. Take a minute and describe your big vision below. Even if nobody reaches out to you to check your progress, YOU will remember it was posted here and the discomfort of complacency will encourage you to take action each day.
In 2001, Darren LaCroix outlasted over 20,000 competitors from around the globe to become the World Champion of Public Speaking. In Toastmasters circles, Darren’s story is quite well known. In this interview, however, Scott Cooksey asks Darren, one of his earliest mentors in the business of speaking, to pull back the curtains not on how he achieved his climb to the top, but the grit it takes to stay there. Add in just a dash of what YOU can do to become your own champion of fulfilling success on your terms (Hint: It involves finding a mentor)..and learn why the road to authenticity is not an easy one to navigate alone.
QUOTE: “A little bit of effort in the right direction will outperform a lot of effort in the wrong direction.” – Darren LaCroix
Darren’s Math to Mastery Equation states “Effort X Direction = Mastery“
There are two kinds of feedback,
Anyone can share how a story or action made them think or feel,but
Not everyone is qualified to provide coaching to improve. Know how to discern which type of feedback you can trust.
Why there is no substitute for “stage time” in your chosen pursuit
Worse than taking no advice, is taking advice from people who are only 1/2 step ahead of you.
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Just a quick update to let you know that while I haven’t posted any new articles in a while, the IdeaCharger has been generating some new content, and you are going to love it!
Coming in August 2015, I am excited to announce the launch of “Success Charger Podcast with Scott Cooksey”. As soon as we have the particulars worked out, I’ll be posting the details, but here’s a quick look at what you can expect:
Stories behind the tips shared inside “CONNECT: 77 Idea Chargers to Generate High Voltage Results TODAY!” Don’t have a copy,order one HERE
Interviews offering deeper insights behind the stories and concepts YOU NEED TO KNOW
Concepts to re-energize your business and generate deeper, profitable relationships with your clients and customer RIGHT NOW
Much, much more!
Production is already underway for our first episodes, so get ready to be energized with SUCCESS CHARGER: The Podcast!
You become the average of the five people you spend the most time with.”
-Jim Rohn, 1930-2009
Several years ago, following some significant, life-changing events, I found myself adrift. I had lost my focus. While I had the “know-how”, my energy for building a business had faded from a roaring fire to a smoldering pile of coals. Something needed to change.
Filling the Gap
When I visit with clients about the difference between where they are and where they would like to be, I have often found the gap to be both deceptively narrow and dangerously deep. In order to traverse the crevasse, one must first summon the courage to try. It helps if you have a support system around you. Are the people with whom you spend the most time building you up, or pulling you down?
Five Steps to Re-Ignite Your Success
Intentionally select to become active in meetings with like-minded people. By choosing to surround yourself with people who share your values, ideas, passion, excitement and/or skill set, you will be practicing the idea that “iron sharpens iron”.
Deliberately attend gatherings of people with views different from your own. Living in a bubble is dangerous. Get close to your competitors and detractors to gain a peek into their playbook. While ideologies may not match, knowledge beats “winging it” every time. In some cases, keeping an open mind will often lead to new solutions YOU can implement as well!
Upgrade your circle of influence. Look around. If you are not learning FROM the people you consider close, it might be time to upgrade your circle of influence. Already upgraded and still not getting better? Shuffle the deck and try again.
Form a mastermind group. Find people who can be part of your accountability structure (yes…you need that) and for whom YOU can offer fresh perspectives. These are the people who are gathering to make their businesses better. Turn off your filter. Give the best advice you know. What you receive in return is priceless.
Go on a date. Yep. Get a sitter and go out with your spouse or significant other. Book an exclusive dinner with your child. DO NOT TALK ABOUT WORK. Be present. Listen. [For best results, repeat this step regularly.]
Desire Is Like A Campfire
Once a fire settles down from a roaring blaze to a bed of hot coals, a smart camper banks them up into a tight bundle before heading off to their tent. In the morning, simply adding some dry tinder onto the coals re-ignites the flame to shake off the morning chill and warm up that first pot of coffee.
The five steps above are the tinder you need to re-ignite the fire that comforts your success. If you are surrounded by the right people, average is all you need.
Scott Cooksey works with organizations seeking to improve team performance, forge unbreakable bonds with clients and generate sustainable, profitable results. Learn more at www.IdeaCharger.com.