How to Get What You Want in Three Simple Steps (Ep 17)

Three Basic Steps to Make This Next Year All Yours!

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I don’t care what has happened to you up until this point.  You shouldn’t either. And the people who have not met you yet certainly only know what they will see as you go forward.What I mean to say is that it is helpful to be mindful of the past, but it is time to let it go.

Before you can take your next steps forward, you have to acknowledge, accept, and let go of the missteps in your past.  Most of them probably were not your fault, anyway.  For those that were, take the time to understand what happened, why it occurred, and consider how you might have handled each situation differently to re-direct the outcome towards something more favorable for you.


Wait…put down the gun!  That isn’t what I had in mind when I fro-yo2015suggested you should do something different. This is the place where you give some serious thought to what you want, and how to get it. Here’s a checklist for you:

  • Honestly decide what you want your future to look like. How will it feel?  What will you do differently?  Who will you surround yourself with?  When will you turn those wishes into action?  Write this all down. You’re going to need it.
  • Set goals for yourself.  Using the information you wrote down in the step above, begin to assign some dates to items you want to do, achieve, or begin.
  • Take deliberate action.  HINT:  This is the step you have most likely skipped in the past.  For example: Do you want to bike your first century (100 mile) ride? Schedule one on the calendar, register for the ride online, then add your training rides to your actual calendar, so you can track your progress and preparation.  Or, perhaps you want a new job.  Schedule time each week to peruse job postings, work on your resume’, network with real people who work at the companies in which you are interested, and apply for a few new opportunities.


cc-Hard Rock GuitarIf you’ve done the work to honestly assess where you have been (how you got there) and identified where you are going (set a course shaped by new, deliberate action), then this part is easy.  Taking the steps to get out of the rut you are in so you can make this next year all yours is the hardest part.

Once you have created new habits, the fruits of those new habits will continue to creep into your life and the old, unfulfilled life you used to know will be long gone.  Before you know it, your life will be full of so much satisfaction, joy, happiness and accomplishment…the precise definition of an abundant life!

This article originally published by Scott Cooksey at

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